Not only for namesake‼

Call me obsessed, stupid, and useless or whatever but here I am…with yet another blog. It is like somehow I need to give a vent to my thoughts, to what I feel…and being the girl I am, I have to share it with each of my acquaintances and this is the best way I can do it‼

The other day while doing a feature article, I came across this issue of changing the bride’s first name post marriage and how many contemporary females are putting up a stand against it. Previously, it did not seem to be a that big great deal…don’t know why it should be now…but I actually gave some serious thought to it.

This has been done quite often in my family and I did not really seem to mind it…and well…nobody cared also even if I did mind…so it was all normal…

But while answering a certain someone’s query over the issue, it was necessary I look at it from her point of view…as the dearest Ian Thornton (Vasundhara, u know who :P ) had said, put oneself in the other person’s situation and think….

And think I certainly did and had some amazing revelations…

It would be ridiculous if someone tried to did that…I mean hell with Shakespeare for his “what’s in a name” thing…for me, everything is there in it. So much so that I wouldn’t have some special people in my life call me by any other name, than their own modified ‘love names’.

For instance, I would fail to answer if someday my dad or even mom would call me “Vidhi”…it has always been Chinki and it would always be that…even when they would try to do it during PTA meetings, they would sound so phony…as if am not the one they are talking about…some long lost child of theirs…

Imagine! if my brat-as-hell brother were to call me anything apart from what he calls me..(I can’t tell you the name btw,…it is too sweet (read: ridiculous) to be disclosed here… \m/

Amusingly, I have as many names as there are special people in my life…and I hate it when they try to swap names or call me what someone else does…I mean my stupid brother Nishant had taken up this habit of calling me Chi…when all his life he had called me “Chinu”…how much I had ranted at him…and made sure that he gives up calling me Chi…as it is Chinu and Nishu rhyme so well….the moron needed some serious convincing before understanding this simple thing…phew…

And it is not like Chi was his innovation..it was given by my very dear friend…Priyanka Jajodia because she thought Cheena was too long (talk about being stupid‼)….my entire family would make fun of me when this female would shout Chi…Chi at the top of her voice…but then they got used to it (as they have to our various other eccentricities) and the trademark name stuck by…and trust me love…nobody says it better than you do….in fact I don’t let anybody else use it only….<3>

Even PD is so close to heart (Divyanshu..stop grinning :D)…though I swear I would have murdered the innovator back then in 8^th standard for coming up with PD (read: Phoolan Devi). I know, I know…it is simply heartless to call an epitome of amicability by such outrageous epithets…but some people find it difficult to behold someone superior to them :D :D….in fact they need a dose of hard bound history books in order to come by :P :P

Similarly VD (Anurag), Sicko ( Aamod), Vids (Suru), Chinks (Naresh Mama), China (Raj bhai), Behenji (Paresh mama), Chinka (Badi mom), Babes (Shona aka Radhika), Coconut Girl, …the list is endless…I may have forgotten to include a few…sincerest apologies to those special ones who use those special names J

And yes, Jojojojo…Vidhi does sound the best when you say it :D :D…Suru…I also like when you say it in your signature style…Viddddhii :D

Hiral shah, high time you decided on a special name for me…refrain from Vidhu to rhyme it with Hiru…pleaseeeeeeeee….( and ya..i almost forgot it…am sorry again for not writing your blog…am so sorry… :P :P )

Imagine!…I got lost to this extent while coming up with a perfect and pragmatic answer to the query…and I knew it then…the importance of the given and special names…they are a part of a person’s being…a person’s existence…someone just can’t go about changing them like it is his or her property and not someone else’s to whom it actually belongs.…

Trust me if I had my way, I would come up with an entirely new name and secure IPR over it….

Suru also seemed to share in my opinion and said that she will change the name of entire khandaan of the groom instead of changing her name \m/…yo Girl :D

In fact, while I was at it, that is self-introspection, I came up with a classic Epitaph for myself (as it is am nearing the stage at a lightning speed, what with my deteriorating health L)…

death is considered as being born into some another world…so what could my name be there?

“O thou invisible spirit of mine,

if thou hast no name to be known by,

let us call thee _______”

I shall fill in the gap, when I breathe my last…and people..Please refrain from doing the needful :D

Almost Married

Ok, as I sit anticipating the results of my blood report, I thought of writing this long overdue blog of mine. Before I get started, my sincerest apologies to Miss Hiral Shah. Hope you will find it in your heart to forgive me. If I manage to survive this cataclysmic ailment of mine, I shall surely write about you :P :P

Disclaimer: …my extra brainy friends…please do not think that this blog is any harbinger for nuptial announcements or my plans to consider matrimony as one of the to-do things in the near future…it was just what I felt like about writing for it does lighten up my rather dull days…

Now coming to the topic at hand, Almost Married. Well, my friends who have read a few of my posts on a recent wedding portal are more than convinced that I have secretly married some jerk or something like that, otherwise I would not have achieved such great insights into the functional dynamics of the most complex relationship on this planet, Marriage.

How I loved writing about Venice and it being an ideal honeymoon destination (insider tale: it was directly borrowed from one of the regency collections of Mills & Boon…a smart Google search assured me that there will be no plagiarism issues :D). How much ever I hated it but I had to make a few modifications here and there until it turned out perfect and I was on board as a regular writing member…cheers‼

The initial topics were not all that great….the two things that drove me to write were the section titled “Real people, real wedding” and the Pay :P

Writing about real weddings was actually so much fun…I had the liberty to even cook up stuff and I actually put my brains to work to come up with perfect wedding ideas for all my friends who are currently in a relationship :D (when your stories get posted, I shall mail you the link… ;) the outrageousness committed in there will surely lead to my extinction as my friends will not take a single moment in poisoning me once they read what has been written ;)

Oh, by the by, I did not even spare some of my relatives and gave nice twists and turns to their nuptial arranged almost a decade ago ;) I also realized as to how monotonous maarwari weddings are…the same rituals, the same order in which they are performed, everything more or less uniform..nothing different at all…and I also realized that there has been not a single case of elopement in my near or distant family‼ oh! What a shame :D

I would always get carried away in spinning love tales when the actual purpose of writing was to highlight the planning aspects…but then who cares ;)

The Next Big Thing

A brand new section was allotted to me and it was Relationship Issues. As such am the most unsuitable person to write on this…because of…well the obvious reasons and I do not state the obvious ;) this was a challenge and I was immensely helped (yet again) by my friends who kept fighting with their beloveds for the most silliest reasons which surprisingly were indeed great Relationship Issues :P :P

all I had to do was consider the most recent problem or reason for fight between my friends and their beaus…and try coming up with probable solutions :D I am not sure whether it would have worked in their case, but my work did get approved on all occasions and am highly grateful to them..You Guys Rock :P

Special thanks (yet again) to Sharad Jain who is my only married friend and to whom I referred all the write-ups to test their validity…must say, he has been there, done that…you are the best ‼ :P and any way, it felt like being virtually married all the while writing these stuff (pun intended ;)

But I must say now am quiet knowledgeable about certain dynamics of this sacred and secular institution called Marriage…so much so that now I have a specific list of Do’s and Don’t’s…for me as well as the unfortunate soul who will…well…u know ;)

Here are a few classic statements made by some of my friends:

Accept it when you are wrong, just keep quiet when you are right…follow this and you will be convinced that you are indeed the most fortunate man on this earth in the most happy relationship that could ever be J J….

I have already compromised on my Ego, I will not give up my self-respect ‘so easily’….rofl… :P :P

We have been dating since 4 years now, why can’t he understand my feelings without my having to express them :P :P (Poor guy…it is not his fault that he is not as psychic as Octopus Paul :D)

And the best one: All the jealousy, insecurity etc etc is just there because ‘I love you….please forgive me this last one time…is it too much to ask for sweets??” :P :P

But what I found most despicable was when my friends would say “you won’t understand because you have not been in a relationship”….OMG…how I felt like throttling them then and there‼

P.S. : Piu, will we ever find the “Yoyo” kind men who will behave like…well a “Yoyo”… ??